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“Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee and just as hard to sleep after.”
Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea

When I came out in March, it was a spur of the moment thing that just sort of happened, but it was inspired by the bravery of people I have known for years and some I will never get to know, save from what they share on social media.

It was also at that time when I discovered a new restaurant that has become a safe space for me. It is a place that allows me to…

Posted on my Facebook page early this morning.

Today would’ve been my dad’s 75th birthday, so it’s basically already a hard day 12 minutes in, but it’s been a bad week, and a bad effing year except for the new guy/lady in the WH, and the senators from GA.

I’m going to do something that I hadn’t planned on doing because it’s really no one’s business but mine, but it’s clear I need to do this.

Yesterday, I came out as non-binary on twitter and Medium and Tumblr. I quietly updated my profiles to change my pronouns to Mom/They. That…

“Where’s your church?”
“We’re standing in it.”
“But this is a bookstore and it’s a Friday.”
“Yes, but you might also choose to see it as a cathedral of the human spirit-a storehouse consecrated to the full spectrum of human experience. Just about every idea we’ve ever had is in here somewhere. A place containing great thinking is a sacred space.”
-Forrest Church, A Chosen Faith, An Introduction to Unitarian-Universalism

I found an image on Facebook yesterday, and it reminded me of the time I stopped writing creatively in my last year of high school.

I was sitting in my Creative Writing class, which I loved, we just basically spent the time writing whatever we wanted, when an observer visits the class and sits next to me. She asks to read my story, which I had written for a writing contest given by the biggest indie bookstore in Denver. I let her read it, and she said, “It’s very good, but you couldn’t have written this, you’re too young. You…

January 6, 2021

I want to be eloquent today, but I am not eloquent on the best of days. This morning, I was hopeful for the first time in years that we may soon see a flicker of light at the end of a very long tunnel, but I should have known better.

I did know better. I did. After all, I have lived in this country for nearly half a century. But I had hope.

In creative circles, people I know have chosen a single word to focus on for this year, as their mantra or inspiration instead of…


notjustmom on Ao3, Warren Dem, Fortysomething Writer, raising kids in NY. Mom/They, Bi.

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